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What Kids Say in Public

How many times have you been walking through the store with your child and they not so quietly say “who farted” or “I need to go pooh”? Oh the joys of parenthood as you usually are surrounded by crowds of people who also get to enjoy the moment. Have you ever had the pleasure of your really young child deciding the store is a good place to discuss their new knowledge of what makes boys and girls different and your efforts to get them to stop talking or whisper are futile?

I guess this could be expanded to include actions as well as words. I have had my children doing the potty dance in public with their hands holding certain body parts and screaming they need to go to the bathroom.

I always enjoyed the awkward moments when standing in the check out lane or just walking around a store and out pops “that lady is really fat” or “look at that guys blue hair”. That person of course is standing two feet in front of you and is now giving you the stare glare. Of course as adults we understand the ramblings and innocence of small children, but what about the times this happens with the not so small children? I have turned every shade of red known to man out of embarrassment and then turned blue in the face as I held my breath to keep me from going off on my child right there. You often just do that apologetic eye contact with the insulted party and all is good because in that moment they know once in the car or at home that child is getting an ear full!

There are some good teaching moments in those later conversations with children about proper social skills and what is appropriate in public. Although we all see things we consider different or weird we learn to keep it to ourselves out of respect for others and we all had to learn those manners at some point too. It just seems that those teaching moments happen more often  in that humiliating public setting more than at home in a controlled environment!

Just to be fair to the children I have witnessed many elderly people who obviously are hard of hearing also not so quietly making comments. Their adult children or caregivers who are accompanying them look just a surprised and embarrassed as us younger parent’s.

What are your stories of the embarrassing comments or actions your child has made in public?


Why does…….?

Why does…….

  • Everything taste better with bacon?
  • Traffic lanes move faster after you have just changed out of that lane?
  • Graham crackers soak up moisture from the air like a sponge and get soggy so quickly?
  • Something that sounded awesome and was put on your dinner menu for the week now sounds repulsive the rest of the week and is never fixed?
  • Things always look more positive after a piece of chocolate?
  • A celebrity endorsement make something more appealing?
  • A person wear flip-flops when going on a cave tour?
  • Mom’s shirt become your napkin or Kleenex?
  • All the T.V. channels go on commercial break at the same time?
  • The car break down just as you paid off the last car repair bill?
  • Being famous mean you are cool for giving your child a whacked out name?
  • Food always taste better when someone else makes it?
  • Someone text you when they are sitting in the next room?
  • A hot shower feel so good?
  • Someone come into an empty movie theater and sit literally right behind you?
  • Your child wait before the day a school project is due to mention it?
  • Something go on sale just after you bought it at full price?
  • Every class assign homework on the one night you have no time?
  • Rubbing your eyes sometimes feel so good that you can’t stop rubbing them?
  • The hospital send you home without an owners manual when you have a baby?
  • All the clothes seem to be thrown on the floor right in front of the clothes hamper?
  • A child go all day at school with one bathroom break but has to go twice during a one hour church meeting?
  • Leaving your cell phone at home make you panic and turn around to go get it?
  • Your car only make that noise when your husband is not around?
  • Your child beg for a box of cereal they just have to have when they will only be eating one bowl and then leaving it to go bad in the cupboard?
  • Running into your neighbors while out shopping happen more often than seeing each other where you actually live?
What are your why’s?

Stay At Home Parenting A Better Option For You?

I had read this article on Yahoo that got me thinking about this topic. It discusses the benefits of having one parent stay at home. This certainly is not meant to be a guilt trip for those who currently work outside the home but I looked at it more as a guide to help families when making those decisions. The article discusses that often the cost of working versus staying at home almost equal each other out when you factor in the different expenses involved to actually work.Click here if you would like to read the article on Yahoo.

I certainly would never want to be the judge of another families choice to have both parents work outside the home or to have a stay at home parent. There are too many variables at play with each families circumstances which I certainly would not know. Many choose to work because they love having a career or enjoy the field they work in. Others work out of necessity, especially single parents. Many opt to have one parent work part-time to dedicate more time at home, and other families opt to have one parent stay at home full-time.  I applaud all those parents who make sacrifices and hard decisions to provide the best for their families!

We had to make many choices starting from when we were first married and they have changed over the years to adjust for different circumstances as our family grew. I worked full-time when we were married. I did continue to work full-time after we started our family however we decided to adjust our work schedules. I discussed with my employer about working a later schedule which allowed my husband and I to each be home with our children while the other worked. We are truly blessed to have a husband/father who wanted to be with our children in that role and understood the importance of the time and effort he spent being a caregiver as well as the provider.

About five years later I did take a position closer to home that was a day job and my girls started daycare. When my son was born a year later he had Apnea which required him to be on a monitor 24 hours a day to detect problems with  his breathing. Although there are daycare’s who will take a child with an Apnea monitor they were very expensive because they have to be licensed for that type of care and not close to our home. This made us look for other options. I began delivering newspapers at night part-time to once again allow my husband and I to be at home with our kids around the clock. I worked the overnight shift again until I was able to find something I now do from home part-time. I continue to work part-time to assist with family expenses and am very blessed for a husband who for a large part of our marriage has worked a full-time job and part-time job to help cover expenses and provide insurance benefits.  This has allowed me to work part-time and care for our home and family needs. It also has given me an opportunity to donate time at my children’s schools and provide more service at our church.

I have many friends who work and many who stay at home with their children. I also have a brother-in-law who is the stay at home parent. His wife is amazing, has a great job and can be the families provider.  They opted to have him stay at home with their two beautiful children and he magnifies his job as a father in taking care of their home and children. So there truly are many options available and I hope every couple will explore different options that they may not have thought of when making decisions for their family.

For us we had to make choices as our family circumstances changed. We believe our children have benefited from having a parent at home since birth and both of us have shared in their milestones, homework, activities and so much more.

What have you found works best for your family?