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What Kids Say in Public

How many times have you been walking through the store with your child and they not so quietly say “who farted” or “I need to go pooh”? Oh the joys of parenthood as you usually are surrounded by crowds of people who also get to enjoy the moment. Have you ever had the pleasure of your really young child deciding the store is a good place to discuss their new knowledge of what makes boys and girls different and your efforts to get them to stop talking or whisper are futile?

I guess this could be expanded to include actions as well as words. I have had my children doing the potty dance in public with their hands holding certain body parts and screaming they need to go to the bathroom.

I always enjoyed the awkward moments when standing in the check out lane or just walking around a store and out pops “that lady is really fat” or “look at that guys blue hair”. That person of course is standing two feet in front of you and is now giving you the stare glare. Of course as adults we understand the ramblings and innocence of small children, but what about the times this happens with the not so small children? I have turned every shade of red known to man out of embarrassment and then turned blue in the face as I held my breath to keep me from going off on my child right there. You often just do that apologetic eye contact with the insulted party and all is good because in that moment they know once in the car or at home that child is getting an ear full!

There are some good teaching moments in those later conversations with children about proper social skills and what is appropriate in public. Although we all see things we consider different or weird we learn to keep it to ourselves out of respect for others and we all had to learn those manners at some point too. It just seems that those teaching moments happen more often  in that humiliating public setting more than at home in a controlled environment!

Just to be fair to the children I have witnessed many elderly people who obviously are hard of hearing also not so quietly making comments. Their adult children or caregivers who are accompanying them look just a surprised and embarrassed as us younger parent’s.

What are your stories of the embarrassing comments or actions your child has made in public?

The kids are awfully quiet!

A friend the other day was mentioning how stressful it is with her very active child because she has to constantly be monitoring what he is doing. If she takes her eyes off him he is into something. Sometimes it just gets too quiet and you know something is up!

Do kids have a mommy radar that they just know when we are occupied and can get into anything they want? I know that as soon as the phone rings that is my kids cue to start fighting or they need to ask me 20 questions! When they were younger my husband would go to mow the lawn on a Saturday and I would clean the house. When he came in I would tell him “you missed it!” I had cleaned the whole house but I swear the kids followed behind me messing it back up!

So I was sharing with my friend this story of when my daughters were toddlers and I have to share it with you too. I was working an evening shift and my husband was home with the girls. He was busy taking care of cleaning up dinner and getting household things taken care of when he realized he had not seen the girls in a bit and it was really quiet. He walked to the back bedroom noticed their door was shut. He opened the door and couldn’t see a thing! There was baby powder all over the room and it was like walking into a fog. He called out their names and suddenly in the fog he could see four little eyes peering back at him. Needless to say it is funny now but at the time it was a huge mess. Although he cleaned up what he could we would find baby powder on things weeks and months later! Then sometime that same year he had a very similar situation where he found them smearing  diaper rash cream on the television!  It did come off the screen but it would not completely come out of the crevices of the plastic sides of the T.V.  Yuck!

What mischief have your kids gotten into when you have found the house was just a little too quiet?


Sacrificing Good Sleep Habits

I have worked nights for almost 15 years now in one job or another. This was a choice we made when we started having kids to make sure I was home during the day. My husband would take care of getting our kids dinner and into bed at night while I was at work into the early morning hours. Although day care works for others we decided this worked best for us. Thankfully I have an amazing husband that took on this role and magnified his job as a dad. I will have to do a post about that some other time.

As the years went on I have continued working during normal “sleeping hours” even after my kids started school because I have a great job and I am able to make better money on the over night shift compared to the day shift. The biggest drawback I have found is a lack of “good” sleep. I currently do take weekends off and get a full night sleep but during the week my sleep is spread out into sections. My schedule is in the early morning hours so I will sleep for a few hours when my kids go to bed until I get up to work and then work until it is time to get them ready for school. I then take a nap during the day for a few hours while they are at school in between house work and other necessities. I have done this long enough that I guess I think my body is used to it but I do find those days that I am just dragging and worn out. I also find that I often get sick easier when I am really worn down. My family will all confirm that I usually cannot sit down to watch a movie with them without falling asleep.  I think my body is saying “here is your opportunity, shut it down now” and it does!

I have found ways over the years to help me sleep better at night and during the day. First I do make sure I go to bed at night when my kids do and get a few hours before working. During the day I make the room dark with blacked out curtains and close the bedroom door to block out sunlight. I also turn off the phones (except my cell phone in case my family has an emergency). I also try to take a nap around the same time every day. Although this has been a struggle for me personally over the years I have found ways to make it work better for me and I do think the benefits I have seen by being home for my kids outweigh the times I do struggle.

I know there are many who sacrifices for what they believe is best for themselves and their families. What sacrifices are you making? What do you find is the biggest challenge with doing that and what ways are you facing those challenges?”